Objectification Is Wrong

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Wrong, but why? (Photo by Andrew Weber on Pexels)

“What’s wrong with it? It is men’s needs, you know nothing about it,” you snapped. You knew that everyone, mostly men, admits that it’s on the list of their daily needs. It even becomes a common knowledge that almost every male human you met have watched or enjoyed the adult material at least once.

Let’s put the pornography industry itself aside for a while. Back in our minds we know that on a certain level, porn is wrong. But we can never elaborate why it is so.

Is it because the ladies with skimpy clothes in it? Is it because watching porn considered a sin? Or is it because porn triggers men’s sexual desire towards women? Therefore, they can easily blame the victims and inanimate objects when sexual assault happens, resulting in rape culture?

Dehumanization of Women

I refuse to believe the reasons I mentioned above.

From my perspective, simply put, women in porn are portrayed as objects. Not only women, actually, but mostly it is women who are objectified. As if they are mere objects that exist to serve others’ (in this case, men’s) pleasure.

In a society that supports patriarchy, porn worsens and spreads misconception about women. Born and bred in Indonesia, I am certain that we’re familiar with daily remarks and myths about women. When we think twice about those remarks, they actually dehumanize women themselves.

Media and ads also play important role in objectifying women, which has been criticized by many. Unfortunately, until now, subtle messages of how women can be objectified are still everywhere. Whether in the media, government, or even in our daily talks.

Gender Education

What’s wrong with patriarchal society is their tendency to overglorify men. And most of the time they don’t realize it. It is not a bad thing actually. However, this overglorifying thingy becomes wrong when they try to objectify women. Making them the subordinate of men.

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“We’re the same in all different ways.” – Sum 41, We’re the Same. (Photo by Charlie Foster on Pexels)

Over time, overglorifying men also dehumanizes them. The common misconception is that men are not supposed to show their emotions because emotions are feminine traits. When we know in fact, men do have emotions. Whether they want to show it or not, it is their choice. Not because showing emotions is “womanly” or “weak”.

We need to think deeply about this.

“We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons.”

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On the other hand, our society seems to be in a hurry whenever they hit the sex education topic. As a result, sex education has been oversimplified, becomes only a list of do’s and don’ts.

I personally think that younger generation needs to be taught about gender education first, instead of sex edu. The gender topic itself will lead to other related topics, such as gender equality, gender-based violence, and even reproduction & marriage, to name a few.

However, most importantly, gender education supports humanity. Because it seems that patriarchal society needs a daily dose of friendly reminder that women are human too.

Now the question is, are we ready to accept that we are all equals? Let me know your thoughts.

 

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